We all face loss at some point in our life. In fact, loss is an undeniable part of life. It can change one’s life drastically. It is very painful to lose someone or something that’s very precious to oneself. And to overcome that loss is a huge task. But life must go on. Take your time to let the emotions of your loss and grief sink in and gradually restart. This blog guides on how to cope up with a loss. It is a general guide that can help you figure out your own unique ways to cope up with a loss.

“You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” ― Anne Lamott

When the feelings involved with the person or anything that one has lost are intense, you feel like everything is over for you, and there’s nothing ahead in life. But trust me, life is beautiful ahead. One needs to make peace with the fact that sometimes one can never get back what is lost, but you can still cherish the memories. 

We have come up with this blog, how to cope with a loss, to try to help you get through that point in life where you can’t see any bright future ahead because you are so lost in the present loss. We hope that everything gets better for you, someday.

How to Cope Up With A Loss?

Here are 8 ways to cope up with a loss. You should read this list till the end if you want to know how to cope up with a loss. 

1. Face the loss/reality 

This is the first and the most important step you need to make to cope up with a loss. I know it’s not easy but it’s needed. You need to face it, to make peace with the fact that things are not gonna be the same again. One needs to acknowledge the truth.

The reality is that you will feel the loss and it’s natural. There’s no way you can deny it. If the loss is a person, you cannot make yourself not miss them. But ignoring and denying what has happened will only make things worse.

2. Let it out 

Express your grief. Don’t build up a wall around yourself, trying to stop yourself from letting out what’s bothering you. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to vent and it’s also okay to shout at the top of your voice if it makes you feel okay. Just don’t resort to self-harm. 

All of us have emotions. We feel happy, excited, sad, and sorrow. We face life with a lot of emotions and all these emotions are valid. Don’t cage them. You are not spreading negativity by letting out that hurt. It’s a part and parcel of life. I guarantee you’ll feel better. 

3. Share it with someone 

Sharing what you are feeling might help you clear the baggage you have been holding on to for so long. Talk to your friends, family members, or people you feel comfortable with. Seek their support. It will make you feel good.

Don’t carry chaos and problems in your heart.

Losses are a part of life and we must all try to move forward. We all deserve to move on and the people who love you will definitely help you do it. 

4. Seek professional help 

seek professional help

You might feel better after sharing it with your near ones but if you think that it still didn’t help you much in coping up and moving ahead, I suggest you seek professional help. It’s very common and easier to go to a therapist these days.

So, don’t lock yourself away from others, don’t force yourself to deal with it all alone. You have got people around you who would listen to you and help you.

5. Stay away from people who don’t acknowledge it

Unfortunately, not everyone you talk to while you are sad or grieving will be helpful to you. Ignore all those people who say things like, “it’s natural, stop beings so sensitive or dramatic”, “get over it”, “I got over it so quickly when it happened to me”, etc.

They don’t know how you feel, it’s your feelings so it’s others can’t understand what you are going through. Don’t give any attention to their dismissive comments.

Tell them “If you think I am being so dramatic or this is too much for you to bear, then you don’t have to be around me in this situation. I need to go through it, regardless of how you’re feeling, so give me some space.”

Take your time and stay away from those people until you feel good or strong. You can’t rush an emotional recovery but you can push Toxic Positivity away – far away from you. 

6. Distract yourself

distract yourself

By keeping busy and occupying yourself in tasks that require a dedicated focus, you give yourself a break from constantly ruminating over the loss. This also gives you the space to realize that there are still plenty of good things in the world and in your life that you can do.

Try to remember the good times and the best memories that you share with your loved ones. Focusing on negative thoughts or regrets won’t change whatever has happened to you. It will just make you feel worse. So, try to distract yourself as much as you can. 

Help yourself to reacquaint with happier pursuits by doing something that gives you peace. There are plenty of possibilities, such as gardening, cooking, painting, writing, walking, listening to your favourite music, etc. Choose whatever gives you happiness and a sense of joyful achievement. 

If you are into art and craft, here are some DIY projects to do.

7. Don’t fake positivity and happiness

As you re-enter your normal routine, you might feel that in some situations you require to be positive and happier than you actually are. While you should try to avoid wallowing in grief, you should also try to avoid “forcing” your happiness and positivity. “Forced” positivity and happiness feel awful – it’s an absolute burden to wear a positive attitude and a smile when you don’t want to. Don’t make these things a chore!!

Save your positive attitude and smile for when these things are genuine – it will be so much better then.

8. Don’t blame yourself

This is the last BUT the most important part of how to cope with a loss! You cannot change the past by thinking over it again and again. It’s not your fault. Rather than thinking about what you could have done or should have done, focus on what you can do – process your emotions and move forward. 

If you still feel that whatever has happened to you, the reason behind that is you, then talk to other people with whom you feel good. Tell a medical professional about it. They will almost always be able to help you convince yourself that the loss isn’t your fault! 

“Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That’s the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what’s left, that’s the part you have to make up as you go.” ― Katharine Weber, The Music Lesson

This blog is curated by budding and beautiful content writers at Blogger Bunny – Aditi and Sneha Mol. We hope that this blog on how to cope up with a loss helps you in your journey with life. Take care 🙂