I read somewhere that before saying ‘I Love You’ one must know how to say the ‘I’. As apt as it could be.
The idea of self love in itself is a form of priority or care which one gifts to oneself.
As Robert Morley quotes, ” To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness”.
Yes, you read it right loving and prioritizing yourself over others is the first form of happiness.
Let’s know more about the actual meaning of self love.
Is it something that can be attained by getting a makeover? or is it something that can be known or implemented by being more spiritual?
There’s not a single day that we don’t get to hear or read about self love.
“You can love others only when you love yourself”, the most common phrase that we hear in our daily life.
Self-love is important to living well. It influences who you choose for a mate, the image you project at work, and the way you deal with the issues in your life.
Self-love is dynamic; it grows through actions that mature us. When we act in ways in which we infuse self-love in us, we start to simply accept our weaknesses as we do our strengths, have compassion for ourselves as citizenry struggling to seek out personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.
Loving yourself does not mean you think you’re the smartest, most talented, and most beautiful person in the world. Instead, once you love yourself you accept your so-called weaknesses, appreciate these so-called shortcomings as something that creates you who you are. When you love yourself, you’ve got compassion for yourself.
5 steps to practice self love:
● Prioritize your own needs-
You need to put yourself before anyone else. This does not mean neglecting the needs of your loved ones, but not to overload yourself with other’s needs.
● Learn to say no-
At times there are moments when we want to say ‘no’ but end up saying ‘yes’, because we care more about others than our own selves.
● Cherishing flaws:
The moment we start to love our flaws and imperfections, we start practicing self love.
● Set goals-
Achieving or accomplishing things help in boosting our confidence. By setting small goals and limits and being successful in them tends to make us happy.
● Learn to let go-
Expectations make us vulnerable, not getting what we give or expect makes us feel low at times. Letting go of what holds us from being happy is a prior form of loving ourselves.
The most common mistake we make in the process of loving oneself is confusing the term self-confidence to self-esteem.
Self-confidence is about trusting yourself and your abilities. For example, you can be confident in one area, such as cooking, dancing, or communicating, but then insecure in another, such as singing or public speaking.
Self-esteem, on the other hand, is about how you see yourself. It’s about your perception of your worth. No matter what happens on the surface , does one treat yourself amorously , care, and respect or not?
We should focus on being someone who loves, who is kind enough to listen to a friend when he/she is in need, who is equally worthy and illuminates positivity.
This act of kindness towards others and their love for you will make you love yourself even more. You’ll be all cheerful and happy which will be visible in your lifestyle, this also inspires others to practice self love.
Comparison, the vibe killer:
Us humans have a habit of constantly comparing our lives with others.
Stop comparing your success, your goals, your choices, your needs, basically, your life with others.
We all are like seeds, waiting for our time to grow into a plant.
Accepting your flaws:
It’s easy to love what you love about yourself and not so easy with the things you don’t. We should learn to love the things we consider a flaw. Because at times people find perfection in our flaws, so why can’t we?
In the end we can’t make everyone happy. No matter how hard we try there is always someone not so happy with our whereabouts and doings.
We should simply accept the fact that we can’t make everyone happy.
In the process of making others happy and thinking about their happiness, there comes a time we start losing ourselves.
We should always remember to prioritize our own needs, never to blame our own selves if someone else is suffering, because at times people tend to play the victim card and this makes us feel guilty.
We should learn to forgive ourselves for over stressing over things and holding on for too long to the things which didn’t require much attention.
Think about the good things in life, feel proud of yourself and let the world know you are no less than a warrior.